Episode 188

The Art of Love with Dené Logan | Win the Day
May 28, 2024
Dené Logan is a marriage and family therapist, author, and podcaster who supports couples in finding more fulfillment in their relationships.
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In this episode of Win the Day:

How healthy is your marriage? 🤔

Dené Logan is a marriage and family therapist who specializes in supporting couples to find more fulfillment in their relationships. Dené uses her background in ‘depth psychology’ to help others reclaim their authentic selves.

Her first book, ‘Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within’, is an excellent read for anyone looking to upgrade their relationships and has just been released.

In this episode:

  • The biggest challenges facing marriages today.
  • How to balance competing desires within the relationship.
  • What a healthy marriage looks like in today’s world.
  • How to bring more connection, love, and trust to your relationship than you ever thought possible.

Let’s WIN THE DAY with Dené Logan!


0:16 Who is Dené Logan
1:25 Interview starts
2:01 Should your parents get divorced
4:18 What a healthy marriage looks like today
9:18 How getting married changes your life (do fairytales exist?)
12:59 How to figure out if you really want kids
14:36 When most relationships dissolve (the first two years of parenthood)
17:33 How it felt to go through divorce as a marriage therapist
20:37 New book ‘Sovereign Love’ by Dené Logan
22:17 Why women lose their sexual desire (and what to do when couples have a different sex drive)
25:48 How to bring the passion back to your relationship
29:28 Win the Day quiz and your free action plan
30:19 Why women want to mother their husbands
31:23 How effective is marriage therapy
32:57 How couples can maintain a sense of individuality while being in a relationship
35:52 How to tell what your love language is
38:37 Becoming a different person in your marriage
39:47 How to discover what love and support your spouse wants
41:58 How to know if you should get divorced
45:02 What to do if your spouse isn’t making effort in the relationship
46:25 Should a couple stay together for the sake of the kids
48:01 How to raise kids to value persistence when you've quit the marriage
50:15 How to find love after divorce
52:12 What high-performing couples do in marriage (and is it ever too early to go to couples therapy)
53:28 How to find a good marriage therapist
54:07 Best lessons from Esther Perel
55:11 How to improve communication in your marriage
57:49 How to manage the transition to parenthood
1:00:23 Why polarity is important in a relationship
1:02:11 Affirmation
1:02:35 Rocket Round


Resources / links mentioned:

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📚 ‘Sovereign Love’ by Dené Logan

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Inspiring quotes in this episode:
  • “You need to define what a good marriage is to you.” – Dené Logan
  • “Becoming a parent really takes a toll on relationships.” – Dené Logan
  • “Men often think, ‘I was with this woman and she's gone.’” – Dené Logan
  • “We mistakenly believe that longevity equates to success in a marriage.” – Dené Logan
  • “Our society teaches men that their only outlets for emotions are anger and sex.” – Dené Logan
  • “Women often feel deeply resentful of the desire for sex.” – Dené Logan
  • “Women tend to fall in love with potential.” – Dené Logan
  • “Your partner will either rise to meet you, or your connection will fall away.”– Dené Logan
  • “Stability is an illusion.” – Dené Logan
  • “Everyone's love language has to do with the way that they weren't parented.” – Dené Logan
  • “We will be in a relationship with at least 6 different people with that same person.” – Dené Logan
  • “Make sure your partner knows how much you truly value them.” – Dené Logan
  • “Every relationship needs respect, inspiration, and a shared mission.” – Dené Logan
  • “We need to reframe what it is to fail and what it is to win.” – Dené Logan
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